The End Of The Road

by Brenna Holeman
Brenna in Malaysia

The Perhentians, Malaysia

As a traveller, one gets used to bumps in the road, to detours that you must cross. You are so often thrown in to strange and difficult situations, so often presented with something you don’t quite know how to handle, but I am so thankful for the skills that I have accumulated that help me deal with those times of uncertainty or discomfort. A night train in India full of leering strangers? The ferry to Morocco is cancelled? A group of Cambodian tuk-tuk drivers surround you and demand money? These are the things you learn to overcome, to handle in the best way possible and to not let it affect your future adventures.

It’s the same, then, when someone close to you totally disappoints you; you learn how to pick yourself up and keep on going, keep your head clear and your heart still focused on the journey. Unfortunately, my travel partner and boyfriend of the past seven months has decided that his journey is over, while I feel like mine is (as always) just beginning. You will still probably see photos and videos of him, as we travelled together non-stop for nearly seven months, through seven countries and twenty-three states and provinces. I really wish that we could have travelled together again, but some people are not cut out for a life like this, one where we are sometimes together every moment of every day and sometimes not together at all. We were only apart for twelve days.

I feel that a necessary trait of any serious traveller is to always look at the bright side of any situation. There is almost always a silver lining, if you only know how to look for it. For me, my silver lining is more travel, more wandering, and less waiting for someone else. Sure, I’m still dreaming of moving to Australia and working on a ranch…but now I’m thinking of other things, too. I’m thinking of working on a cruise ship, or finally looking into getting my Master’s degree in Europe, or travelling through South America much sooner than I had previously thought. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: the world is my oyster, and I feel like I’ve found the most beautiful pearl. Life is here for the taking, and I’m ready to take it all.

You may also like

12 comments

Meaghan Denomme November 28, 2011 - 8:04 pm

you. are. amazing.

Reply
Anonymous November 28, 2011 - 8:07 pm

i agree with the above comment! You always put a positive spin on every situation and that is a gift!

Reply
This Battered Suitcase November 29, 2011 - 2:04 am

Thanks! I’ve always been so grateful that I can put such a positive spin on things, because I truly believe that when one door closes, another one opens. I’m so excited for that next door, for that next journey…

Getting some love from incredible friends like Meaghan doesn’t hurt, either. 😉

Reply
Andi of My Beautiful Adventures November 29, 2011 - 2:36 pm

I had something very similar happen to me. So my heart aches for your loss, but is joyful because I can’t wait to see what amazing doors open for you — because they will!!!

Reply
Christine loves to Travel November 29, 2011 - 3:18 pm

Your positivity is infectious! Keep it up and I can’t wait to see what new adventures are in store for you 🙂

Reply
This Battered Suitcase November 30, 2011 - 12:36 am

Andi – Thank you! I often think of you when I think of successful long-distance relationships and how amazing they can be. Some people just aren’t cut out for them, I suppose. I honestly believe this is for the better, as I am ridiculously excited for what’s up next!

Christine – Thank you for your comment! I am already making outlandish and wanderlust-fueled plans (as usual) and I’m so excited to see how they play out!

Reply
Garby November 30, 2011 - 12:54 am

Wow. You definitely have a way with words. (And my vote is for South America!!!)

Reply
This Battered Suitcase November 30, 2011 - 5:09 am

Thanks, Garby! I will definitely get to South America within the next few years…

Reply
Ali Banali November 30, 2011 - 8:40 am

My darling Blenna-chan, my heart is also aching for you too – these particular experiences are never easy or nice to go through. However you, more than anyone, knows what other wonderful and amazing experiences, places, countries, adventures and people await you with open arms… Me for one! You know what route I’m taking… just sayin’… LOVE LOVE LOVE to you my dear friend XXX

Reply
Evie November 30, 2011 - 11:54 am

So sorry to hear it, Brenna. Though it is nice to see someone deal with something so heartbreaking in a mature, honest and positive way. You are an inspiration!

One day you will certainly find the perfect balance in another, but until then it makes me so happy that you fiercely follow your heart around the world. I can’t wait to read all about what the coming months/years have in store for you!!! 🙂 xx

P.S. I vote a trip to London sometime so we can finally meet!! Barring that, I’ll be in San Francisco in April…? ;p

Reply
This Battered Suitcase November 30, 2011 - 7:50 pm

Ali – You are so good to me, such a great friend. I would LOVE to meet up with you in South America…so let’s keep each other updated! Even if I just fly down for a few weeks to travel with you, I know it would be such an amazing adventure.

Evie – Thank you so much for your comment! I definitely think 2012 will be the year we finally meet. I am hoping to go to California in the new year so perhaps we can arrange it at the same time! I think we should start sending letters to each other again, too, it’s been far too long since I’ve received something in the post from London! 😉

Reply
Ali Banali November 30, 2011 - 8:25 pm

PS: I have an awesome idea for a future post: CHEESE! hehe! XXX

Reply

Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.